You Can Trust Your Judgement In Relationships with Addictions.

Trusting Your Judgment in Relationships: Breaking Free from the Cycle of Doubt

Have you ever found yourself making a list of reasons to stay and reasons to go in a relationship? It's a common practice, especially when you're in a relationship with someone struggling with addiction. You may feel like you're constantly on the edge, unsure of whether to stay or leave. You've probably listed out all the good things about the relationship, but when things go bad, it's a whole different story.

Heidi Rain poses a powerful question: What if you had nothing to prove to the addict or alcoholic in your life? What if you could trust your own judgment? It's a question that cuts to the core of our struggles in relationships.

In moments of confusion and paralysis, it's easy to doubt ourselves. We start to question our own judgment, and there are a couple of reasons why that happens.

Firstly, we often find ourselves being gaslit out of our judgment. The person we're in a relationship with may deny our reality, making us feel like we're the ones going crazy. They might say things like, "You didn't see what you saw," or "You shouldn't feel what you feel." It's a form of manipulation that leaves us doubting our own perceptions.

Secondly, we may feel pressured to prove ourselves in the relationship. We start taking notes, gathering evidence, trying to convince ourselves and others that our feelings are valid. But no matter how much proof we gather, it's never enough. The addict or alcoholic in our lives denies our reality, leaving us feeling even more confused and powerless.

But here's the thing: you don't have to prove yourself. You can trust your judgment. You feel what you feel, you know what you know, and you see what you see. It's your truth, and it's valid.

If you're struggling to trust your judgment in your relationship, take a moment to breathe. Remind yourself that you're allowed to feel what you feel and think what you think. And if you need additional support, check out Heidi Rain's "Stay or Go" course. It's a valuable resource for anyone navigating the complexities of relationships affected by addiction.

Remember, you have nothing to prove. Trust your judgment, and take care of yourself. You deserve it