Rebuilding Trust after Betrayal Trauma: Addiction and relationships With Heidi Rain

Trust is a complicated thing. Especially in the world of addiction and recovery.

Once an addict or alcoholic starts the road to recovery, they expect you to TRUST them as if nothing ever happened.

But the truth is, A LOT has happened. And it’s created trauma within you. Betrayal Trauma.

If love were a house, trust would be the foundation.

You can try and remodel everything else, all you want, you can hang new curtains, get new furniture, rip out kitchen cabinets and get new, you can even lay brand new beautiful floors. But if the foundation is cracked, it will all fall to pieces all over again.

Maybe the addict or alcoholic in your life says things like, “If this is going to work, you have to trust me.”

“You can’t live in the past.” “You have to let it go.”

“If you’re not going to trust me, why did I even get sober?”

...

Trusting Your Judgment in Relationships: Breaking Free from the Cycle of Doubt

Have you ever found yourself making a list of reasons to stay and reasons to go in a relationship? It's a common practice, especially when you're in a relationship with someone struggling with addiction. You may feel like you're constantly on the edge, unsure of whether to stay or leave. You've probably listed out all the good things about the relationship, but when things go bad, it's a whole different story.

Heidi Rain poses a powerful question: What if you had nothing to prove to the addict or alcoholic in your life? What if you could trust your own judgment? It's a question that cuts to the core of our struggles in relationships.

In moments of confusion and paralysis, it's easy to doubt ourselves. We start to question our own judgment, and there are a couple of reasons why that happens.

Firstly, we often find ourselves being gaslit out of our judgment. The person we're in a relationship with may deny...

Hello, dear souls! It's Heidi Rain, and I'm thrilled to welcome you back to another insightful episode of "Addiction and Codependency Breakthrough." Today, we're diving deep into a topic that hits close to home for many of you: the lies addicts tell and the eternal question – when will they truly learn their lesson? Join me as we uncover the hidden truths and shed light on this intricate dynamic.

Introduction

In the realm of addiction and codependency, there's a recurring narrative that often leaves us feeling helpless and baffled. It's the narrative of an addict's declaration that they've finally learned their lesson. It's a statement that can bring a glimmer of hope, but also a sense of skepticism. Why do they keep falling back into old habits? What does it truly mean when they say they've learned their lesson? Let's unravel this enigma together.

The Allure of Learning Lessons

From a young age, we're taught that learning lessons involves experiencing the consequences of our...